XIII – I – MMXVIII
Our wedding photos were published on Hello May magazine today which made me realise that I still haven’t blogged our own story. I should probably start taking my own advice on things like printing photos so are setting myself a deadline to print an album before our 1st wedding anniversary… wish me luck!
The Story Of Us
Andrew and I met back in 2009 on a bar shift at the Burswood Dome during either a Black Eyed Peas concert or Monster Trucks.. either way it took about 4 years of keeping him in the friend zone until we finally got together after bumping into each other accidentally on purpose at Running of the Bulls in Spain in Pamplona. Running for your life will do that to ya :p
It wasn’t until a year later Andrew got a contract to play cricket in England for the season that (I joke, but pretty accurate) he gave me an ultimatum that if I went over I had to move as his ‘girlfriend’. We ventured off to a little village in Essex and the rest, as they say, is history!
How he asked
One weekend in May we were down south for my Birthday Weekend and we came home from dinner to a courtyard covered in hundreds of candles, I thought it was a bit over the top not really being the romantic type but it was only until I saw the flowers (which was totally out of character) that I realised what was going on. Before I could turn around to say anything he was down on one knee. It was a total surprise to say the least! I was in utter shock and besides saying yes straight away was left speechless – Andrew still says it’s the quickest decision I have ever made!!
He did well to make it a surprise I had no clue, we travel a fair bit and everyone thought he’d pop the question when climbing Machu Picchu the month later but I’m so glad he did it before because 1. it was a huge surprise and 2. getting engaged while you’re all sweaty, exhausted, hangry and haven’t showered for 4 days isn’t as glamorous as Instagram makes it out to be!
We didn’t want a long engagement so picked the one free date I had 6 months away. In hindsight putting a wedding together in pretty much, the last two months was probably silly.
Our celebration of love
Here are some of the images beautiful captured by the legend that is James Simmons.
Feel free to ask any questions!
There were, of course, a fair few minute meltdowns along the way. Me telling Andrew he has done nothing but then not letting him do anything… can anyone else relate or was I a bit crazy?
I thought I was a pretty easy going person but I think being in the wedding industry and seeing so many weddings it made me a bit more critical of what I wanted (or more so didn’t want and what wasn’t me). It was a lot harder than I thought, trying to keep it super low key like us but still make it pretty.
I always feel sorry for the guys at summer weddings wearing suits so we opted for just a simple white shirt – and it ended up being 40 degrees so I think they were chuffed!
Being in the industry and looking back I think that if I wasn’t a photographer I probably wouldn’t have done half the things we did – like book the getting ready accomodation because it had green walls. In March we ended up having a second wedding for my family in South Africa which was super chilled, put together at our beach cottage / Grandad’s pineapple farm in 24hours with the local farm minister (who i only met as I walked down the aisle) – it was so much fun and really ‘us’ . Although we only have crappy iPhone quality shots of the ceremony and reception up on the deck overlooking the Kleinemonde River, it was perfect. We did a photo shoot in Cape Town on a different day for those Insta worthy shots – the whole thing made me really stop and think what is important about marriage and on a wedding day. Sometimes we get so caught up in material things like wedding trends and styling or having pretty shoes. In SA i went barefoot, it was grand.
The girls pretty much got to pick whatever they wanted to wear, after a few text messages back and forth – having the girls over east made it a little trickier but loved what they ended up wearing.
I’ve never understood the whole matching bouquet thing, or bouquets in general unless it’s to have something to hold onto but I absolutely loved these Botanica Naturalis creations.My favourite things
I’m not sure why but the thought of going into wedding dress shops and trying on white bridal-ly dresses made me feel quite ill, so when I stumbled across the beautiful Alyse Gown from one of my all-time favourite brands Odylyne The Ceremony online and kept coming back to it i knew it must be the one. Trying to track it down from the states was proving difficult when by some miracle I contacted a few boutiques in Sydney and one just happened to have one sample Alyse gown that they were no longer stocking and it just so happened to be the colour I wanted and my size. Another miracle that just fell into place. When it arrived i must admit i was a bit worried if it was a bit much for someone wanting a simple courtyard wedding but i just left it to the last minute to get it altered a bit and then fell in love and still absolutely love it.
Vendors/ fam / friends
Being in the industry I am blessed to know so many incredible and incredibly talented people so it was super hard choosing who to hire!
I made a list of who I wanted/ enjoy working with, trying to include as many friends as possible, then realised very quickly i wasn’t going to be able to have everything i wanted and afford a nice long honeymoon /second wedding and I was actually shocked by how expenses weddings can become.
We wrote a list of the top 5 things that we each wanted that we would book no matter what and a list of 5 things we didn’t care for and then compromised which worked really well. It was so sad only being able to pick one of each vendor because Perth is just overflowing with creative geniuses and beautiful souls.
Our family friend Peter Meyer is a pastor and he made the ceremony a lot more personal than the standard celebrant script (which I can pretty much recite off the top of my head after hearing it so many times).
Marriage is very special to me. It is now us adventuring through life and navigating the world together through the good and the bad, until one of us kicks the bucket. Someone to adventure with and do life together with. A lot of people say it feels no different being married but I can already feel it has brought us closer knowing this is forever. Andrew is the most amazing human and even though we can fight a lot sometimes – usually (pretty much always) because I’m hungry – I love knowing that he will always have my back and I his.
We wanted something simple, fun and outdoors that was a blank canvas for us to make our own. Andrew’s parent’s live across the road from the Perth City Farm farmers market which was handy and I had recently shot a wedding there that i really enjoyed. It is super convenient, especially having the ceremony and reception in the one place. Being such short notice, we somehow picked one of the only Saturday’s they had free in the summer so thought that was a sign. Perth City Farm and its DIY nature had its pro’s and con’s – if you’re thinking of getting married here feel free to get in touch for the low down. It is definitely a lot more effort to make it look nice than we thought!
We didn’t really have a theme for the wedding, we just wanted something outdoors and a big party that everyone could relax and have fun with little formalities, structure or any formal wedding vibes. Judging by the sore heads and feet the next morning I think we got there.
We also weren’t going to have an arbour but when I showed Andrew a picture of one I liked and he went away and made it so that was really sweet.
To DIY or not
Our whole wedding was pretty much DIY. I designed the invites with the help of my talented aunty Kim, who painted them & Mayumi from Decarlo Calligraphy who helped me with all my signage – which I got my jeweller friend to engrave (on the day – yikes). I hand fed each invitation into the printer cause the beautiful handmade paper was too soft. I really enjoyed making things like that personal.
Don’t get me wrong, DIY is great for being able to personalise a wedding but in the end it was a lot harder to put together (and more expensive) than I thought! Luckily my brother Ross co-runs an awesome events company and helped (/got roped in last minute) to save the day and organise all the drinks, bar staff, logistics and setup! It was a bit different to the usual 15,000person Oktoberfest he’s used to but he did comment that he thought it was more hard work….or maybe he said i was, not sure!
I loved every minute of it, especially when Andrew surprised me with a video projection of all my family back home with little love notes. Andrew says his favourite moment was watching me walk down the isle but says that’s too sappy to say hah and he was crying for most of it so I’m not sure how much he could see through all the tears hah! I’d never seen him cry before so it was my favourite moment until he told me I wasn’t allowed to write that!
This is us getting locked in a racecourse after going off road for photos and having uber save our bacon leaving Liv ( one of the photographers) behind with the car.
Okay that’s enough rambling
YOU DO YOU. Do what makes both of you happy and don’t do things to please others or because you think you have to.
The one thing I wanted to know during wedding planning was what were the things couples were really glad thye did and what did they wish they did differently.
Being someone who wanted to elope, It took a long time to come around to the whole wedding idea, especially when Andrew has such a large family and most of mine are overseas and wouldn’t be there.
I am really glad we had a celebration with everyone and didn’t elope. Even being a bit of an introvert and not liking attention we did little things during the day to make the spotlight not on us, but on people mingling and enjoying themselves. Money is a renewable resource but time spent with all your loved ones in one place isn’t. You can’t get back these moments in life, they are some of the best days of our lives right here and now.
I wish I didn’t get annoyed with Andrew during planning when i couldn’t make a decision, told him he was doing nothing but then didn’t let him organise anything because I knew it wouldn’t have been pretty haha!
I was really glad though that we didn’t spend money on material things that at the end of the day don’t matter eg. Wedding cake, seating charts etc. Having family and friends there was the most important.
Things like flowers will be dead the next day, to be honest we didn’t even end up eating the food that we were so looking forward to. I didn’t hear the acoustic musician that we had hired after the one I really wanted was way out of our budget – so as good as he was I’m glad we didn’t splurge on that.
I am glad we splurged on photography, moments like these will now stay with us. Video – I’m not sure that I regret not getting a video as I can’t watch myself on video but maybe it would have been nice to hear people’s voices – but these days that’s all cut out anyway.
I’m glad I splurged on the dress. It definitely beats the $500 boho one i was originally was going to wear!
In the end I wouldn’t change a thing. I’m actually so glad we had a wedding over eloping, I guess maybe because we kinda got to do that with our Part 2 South African wedding. By having the two separate celebrations both our families got to witness our union and we got to do it all our way which was perfect.
Feel free to ask me any questions!